Hi ladies, and possible Gents. I'm so sorry that I've been neglecting my blog lately. I've been so busy I barely have time to breath!! I've also been getting the house ready for CJ's parents arrival. They'll get here around 11pm tomorrow. He's been home sick, so I know he's super excited! It's nice to have family you can call and talk to and have come and visit every now and then. This brings me to the topic of my entry today. A good support system.
When you're TTC it can be extremely hard to go through it alone. Yes, you have your husband, or partner, but if you're anything like me, you don't want to stress out your better half. They always say they don't mind if you vent to them, but the truth is that they are stressed about it too. Mostly because they want to be able to help, but it's out of their control. Guys hate when they can't fix something, especially when that something is making their partner depressed. If you have other family, don't be afraid to ask them if they've been in your shoes. Most likely one of them has. You wont believe the relief you will get once you know someone knows how you feel. I didn't know that I had some family with infertility issues as well until I started asking, and by some I mean 2. Now I can talk to them and ask them how they coped with this, or how they dealt with that. It helped me through a LOT. Just to be able to vent to them, because they KNEW exactly how I felt!
It's better knowing you're not alone.
Guess what, you're NOT! :-)
My family, as I've said in past blogs, are full of "Fertile Myrtles". Meaning, they sneeze and they're pregnant. I don't mean this in a mean or taunting way at all. I was just completely jealous of their baby making superpowers. But, after MUCH prayer I was able to come to terms with the path God had put me on. It's extremely bumpy, but I've got 4 wheel drive, a.k.a. my support system.
The more support you have, the better.
There are TONS of support groups online, if you are uncomfortable with opening up to your family. There are bad ones and great ones. I personally like countdowntopregnancy.com. There are SO many women on their that are going through exactly what you're going through. I was a little nervous when I first signed up on it, but after going through some of the topics and talking to some of the ladies, I felt right at home. You can find cycle buddies and cheer each other on each day. You can compare your symptoms each cycle to those of women who actually became pregnant. You can also upload HPT photos that you take. If you can't tell if there's a line or not, upload it under "Unsure" and other ladies will vote Pos or Neg if they see a line or not. I think overall it's an amazing support site. AND if you do achieve pregnancy, they have a sister site called countdownmypregnancy.com. AND it's all FREE!!!
countdowntopregnancy.com
Track your cycles day by day. BBT charting.
HPT and OPT picture uploads.
Best of all, GREAT women to talk to.
Keep your chin up ladies. The hardest part about infertility is the first step to overcoming it. Opening up about it to others. Once you can do that, you can come to terms with it and overcome the challenges of it all. Having a support system helps take aways a LOT of the stress behind infertility and makes your quality of life so much better. You'll feel better about yourself knowing someone is there to help and listen. Your marriage will improve since you don't have to lay your whole load on his shoulders. If you need help on ways to open up to your family, don't be afraid to ask. I'm sure there are great tips online somewhere as well. Please try the website I suggested. I really met some awesome women on there and they've given me some amazing advice!
Yeah, that's an all too familiar feeling.
Sometimes I wish I could tell people to just shut it.
I liked this. Thought you might enjoy it as well.
I will continue to pray for all of you and that we all get our BFP's someday soon. Much love and best wishes! Tons of sticky vibes and baby dust to all!!
Good luck and God Bless,
Ashley
