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Some of this blog may be TMI if you are shy about sex talk. Just sayin. Otherwise enjoy!
Did I ever mention how impatient I've grown. lol. I'm still waiting for something to happen. *sigh*
Well, on a happy note, my mom is coming to visit in a couple weeks. Around the 4th of July as a matter of fact, so that will be good and it'll get my mind off this whole thing.
Today, we're going to talk about keeping the romance alive while TTC. When you're TTC it can become very routine when it's time to BD and takes most of the romance out of it.
First off, do NOT call it baby dance to your hubby. He may start feeling like the ONLY reason you're ready and willing so often is JUST to make a baby. Remember, you're making love, not just BD-ing. You must remember the reason you want a baby in the first place. Because you love your husband SO much that you want to create a part of him with a part of you. An extension to your little family.
Let him know how much you love him and focus on each other, not on creating a baby. If you focus on each other, then you lose yourselves into each other. You forget the stress of TTC and get lost in happy, love filled passion. The less you think about it and stress about it, the higher your chances of conceiving are.
A guy can also start to feel like it's becoming too routine and loses interest because it's not spontaneous anymore. Don't tell your man when you're ovulating, unless he's as into the baby making business as you are. If he's not, then it'd be best to withhold that info. If they want spontaneity, well then by golly ladies, lets give it to them. If you are using a monitor that says you're ovulating or you suspect you might be ovulating, before he gets home, light a few candles, put on some music, and wear something skanky. lol. You know your hubby's and what they like, so play with some of their fantasies. If they are home before you or you both have been home together all day, then slip away and either dress up, or dress way down and call him to where ever you are.
Try getting out of the bedroom. Also, if he says he's too tired then try waking him in a "happy" way at 2AM after he's been sleeping for awhile. Trust me, they wont realize what's going on till everything is already in full motion. No pun intended. lol.
Don't think too hard about "doing it" right. Studies have said that the Missionary Position is the best for conception because it gets the sperm closest to the cervix, but it doesn't mean that that's the ONLY position you can do. I mean, go crazy ladies, just make sure you're on bottom when he finishes.
HAHAHA GROSS!
Also, this is probably the most unattractive part, but make sure you lay there with a pillow, NOT A BIG ONE, under your hips with knees bent for at LEAST 20 to 30 minutes, according to research. If you raise your hips too high, the sperm could slip behind the opening of your cervix and miss entry. They also say to do it 2 days before you ovulate and the day of.
I'll continue to pray for y'all and pray that one day we'll all see our BFPs. Remember have fun and relax!
Good luck and God Bless,
Ashley
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